Desire
The second Noble Truth in Buddhism states that desiring is the cause of all suffering, so some of us can think that it’s a bad thing.
In this episode, Anya and Mark explore desire in all its forms and functions.
Three prompts
- What do you want?
- Is it a need, a want, or a desire?
- What would happen if you were guided by your desires?
Resources
- Wikipedia definition of desire
- The four noble truths
- Compassionate Mind website
- The Compassionate Mind: A New Approach to Life's Challenges (Compassion Focused Therapy), by Paul Gilbert
- Vincent Felitti: "It is hard to get enough of something that almost works.”
- The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul, by Danielle Laporte
- PERMA model
- Comfort, stretch, panic zones model
- Laminated Book of Dreams, Bill Bailey
- [Personal, permanent, pervasive](https://wisdomsummary.com/the-3-ps-of-emotional-resilience/#:~:text=After spending decades studying how,negative events in our lives.) - plus an exercise, Martin Seligman
- Avoidance goals (wanting to avoid pain)
- Anhedonia
- Michael Neill - check out his book The Inside-Out Revolution: The Only Thing You Need to Know to Change Your Life Forever
- Undefended Love, by Jett Psaris and Marlena S Lyons
- Need ⇒ Want ⇒ Desire ⇒ Preference ⇒ No preference
- “The aim is not to quench your thirst. The aim is to develop the perfect thirst, so that you never stop drinking.”
- “Look for the chimneys” - Merlin Mann
- “Dropping anchor” - free audios with Russ Harris
- Do not leave your longings unattended
- How expansive is your emotional vocabulary?
- Wild Geese, by Mary Oliver
- Anya Pearse, Intuitive advisor and her An Hour of Kindness
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